How to Have a Threesome

One of the most popular requests I receive is for Male/Female/Female threesomes. You probably already know that threesomes are at the top of the male fantasy list so it's no surprise that men will pay to make this fantasy come true.

My first threesome took place 2 years after my divorce (and many many years before I became an escort). I had this little girl crush on a co-worker of mine - she was so hot it was impossible not to be attracted to her! I was flattered that she wanted to socialize with me outside of the office and then, when she casually brought up the idea of a threesome, I was floored! I called my friend and f*** buddy at the time and begged him to be the 3rd member of my very first threesome. Turns out I didn't really need to beg.

A few weeks later we all found ourselves in my hotel room - we were on a vacation weekend our company had arranged for the sales division. All three of us were completely sober (mistake) and waiting for someone to do something...anything just to get the ball rolling. We were lying on my bed, the three of us, making small uncomfortable chit chat, juuuust.....waiting waiting waiting.

I won't waste anymore of your time with the sordid details, but suffice to say my first threesome was a far cry from the threesomes I engage in today. Today I'm the one who knows what to say and what to do and how to do it. So I'm here to share with you some of the basic etiquette and tips to make your threesome as enjoyable as possible.

PRELIMINARIES...

Since threesomes are more often requested by men than women, it stands to reason that the man expects to be the center of attention (or the "middle of the sandwich") once the proceedings begin. This is a great opportunity to get to know the third party, whether she be a personal friend whom you've never slept with before, a girl you picked up at a club together, or a pay-for girl.

Start off with a nice massage for your man. Break out the flavored massage oil, or some massage cream. Have your man lie down between the two of you so that as you rub him down you and the other woman can connect and even get to know one another in this sexual state.

Ask her if she's ever done this before and what she likes to do or have done to herself. This way you can get to know her likes and dislikes and ensure that you are not crossing any boundaries. At the same time, your man gets to listen in on 2 women talking about their sexual likes and dislikes...it's the perfect foreplay for him.

GIRL STUFF...

A big part of the male threesome fantasy is watching both women interact with each other. Assuming you would not have consented to a threesome unless you were somewhat bi-friendly, now is a great time to turn your man over (so that he can watch) and spend a little time kissing and playing with your female partner.

Now that you've broken the girl-on-girl ice, it's time to pay attention to your man. Depending on how you feel, you can either begin kissing him or working your way down his body with your mouth. Whatever you're doing, the other woman can engage in activity on the opposite end from you. This may mean she starts kissing your man, or going down on him.

FEELINGS...WOAH WOAH WOAH, FEELINGS...

This might be a good time to talk about "feelings." For a good number of women, it is impossible to ignore the fact that seeing another woman interact sexually with their man affects them emotionally. It can be hard watching your man make the same moves and make the same noises with her as he does with you.

The truth is, there's no easy solution. If you and your man have a strong relationship and you trust each other, the best thing to do is to remind yourself that this is nothing but sex. Just a fun experiment you're having to satisfy a male fantasy. If your man is sensitive and tuned in to your emotional needs, hopefully he will be there later to assure you that he still loves you and that this other woman was nothing more than a play thing.

What I'm saying is that no matter how strongly you feel about each other, and no matter how secure you are in a loving relationship, it can be difficult to watch your man kissing, touching, and having sex with another woman...even one you hand picked yourself. But if you want a threesome, this is the 'baggage' that comes along with it. Moving right along!

GOOD STUFF TO DO...

Another popular image that goes through the male mind when pondering a threesome is the "double blow job" - that is, both women going down on him at once. Whether you're both licking his shaft together, or one of you is paying attention to his balls while the other goes down on his cock, the combination of imagery and sensation always blows the man away!

Have you ever been curious about going down on a woman? Here's your opportunity to explore that little fantasy! Nothing turns a man on like a little girl-on-girl cunnilingus. What's great about this activity is that allows everyone to be doing something. If you're going down on the girl, your man can be fingering her, kissing her, feeling her, or even pounding you from behind doggy style! (Although the doggy style option makes it difficult for him to see what you're doing to her).

WHAT ABOUT THE SEX?

This is an excellent question and shouldn't be taken for granted. Who gets to fuck whom? And what does the third person do while all this fucking is taking place?

In the ideal threesome, everyone gets a turn with intercourse. All too often, though, I see the man get overexcited by virtue of experiencing his ultimate fantasy come true, and he blows within the first 2 minutes of sex with whomever he happens to be fucking at that moment. If he can swing it for round 2, then maybe everyone gets a happy turn, but be prepared for the possibility that this may not happen.

A seasoned escort I used to work with had a move that never failed to get the man to cum, while he was also giving pleasure to the 3rd woman. When all the preliminary fun had run its course, she would sit on top of the man's face while the other woman mounted the man (in basic cowgirl position). There's something about having a woman's pussy in their face that turns a man to absolute putty. They lose control...they're truly in threesome heaven.

In my experience, it is much easier on the girlfriend (the one in the committed relationship) if she is the one her man ends up cumming with. There's something about the noise he makes...the personal intimate nature of that noise he makes when he cums, that a woman wants to feel should only belong to her. For this reason, if you are able to control the proceedings, I suggest being the one your man is fucking when he's ready to cum.

If the man wants missionary sex, involving the 3rd woman can pose more of a challenge. In order to continue stimulating the man visually, I recommend having the woman lie down next to you and either play with herself, or play with you by kissing you or sucking on your breasts.

If the woman is on top for sex, she can sit on the man's face (as mentioned above) or lie next to the man and kiss him or play with herself. Alternatively, she can sit on her knees behind the woman doing cowgirl (between his legs) and have her hands wrapped around the woman's front, feeling her up and down or playing with her breasts. Now THAT'S a real visual treat for your man!

POST COITUS...

When the fun winds down there is a certain etiquette that experienced threesomers typically adhere to. It goes something like this:

3rd Woman: "Well, I have to be somewhere early tomorrow morning so I'm going to get dressed."

Couple: "Oh, ok."

Really - it's that simple. Threesomes are just that - threesomes. They're primarily there for experimental sex purposes and fantasy fulfilment - they are not relationships.

On that note, a good boyfriend will know that immediate post-threesome activity should involve much cuddling and reassurance about how much he loves you, how great you are, and maybe even a funny jab at the 3rd women (once she's completely out of earshot). The point being that you want to know that for him this was just a fun and interesting sexual encounter - one that he can now cross off his fantasy list and move to the been-there-done-that list.

Perhaps you'll have another threesome some time in the future...perhaps you won't. Either way, you've experienced something new and exciting in your relationship - something personal you have shared together. Something you can smile and wink about knowingly the next time a girl flirts with both of you at a club.